Strategies For Success After Failure in Business & Life

As part of my life journey I have faced many ups and downs in our business life, I’ve experienced the giddy heights of quick and meteoric success in business. Building up a company worth many millions of dollars and then an equally disastrous loss of fortune due the Asian Financial crisis of the late 90’s. This saw us losing large sums of money, in fact all of it bar a few dollars, many properties and most devastatingly, our family home. It truly was the most challenging time our family had ever faced.

The greatest toll it took on me was emotionally. It was extremely difficult for me to see this ‘failure’ for what it was; a set of external circumstances beyond our control. For me I felt like a personal failure, it was my fault and I let this keep me down for many years. I buried my natural creative, entrepreneurial nature and got busy focusing on our 3 very young children. I allowed my feelings of shame and humiliation to rob me of many years and almost every shred of confidence I had.

Today I was privileged to attend an event in Wellington called “Women and Wealth” where the keynote speaker was Suzanne Paul, a public figure in New Zealand, founder and inventor of the ‘Natural Glow’ cosmetic empire. Due to a new business venture failing, Suzanne has also experienced a very public loss of everything, including her self esteem and confidence. I have always admired her courage in sharing her story in her book and via interviews and speaking engagements. Like a lot of women, I have followed her story, been inspired by her sheer guts and determination to pick herself up, dust herself off and start over. Having slowly done the same myself firmly believing the mantra… “But wait, there’s more”

“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure”. – Napoleon Hill

This quote from Napoleon Hill has given me strength and encouragement each day since I found it. If I’m experiencing any defeats in my day, I will open my iPhone and flick up this quote to inspire and motivate me to just keep going, put one foot in front of the other and move towards my goals.

If you find yourself in the same position, are 4 essential strategies to help you find your confidence again, you may be looking for whiz bang hard edge business strategies but I can assure you that healing your relationship with yourself first will guarantee you success in all areas of life and have you moving forward…

Forgive Yourself

Find a way to make peace with your past defeats, analyse ‘why’ this happened, find out all the outside influences that lead to the circumstances of your failure, examine your own decisions, identify what you could have done differently, learn from this lesson. By truly understanding what happened analytically, you can be confident of not making the same decisions again that lead you there. Now move on… and realign your focus and start on your new future.

Make a Plan for your New Future

Write your goals, dreams and aspirations out in a notebook, prioritise them and make an action plan of small steps you can take each day to reach these goals. If this is a new experience for you, start with small easily achievable goals. The fact that you are working towards them and achieving gives you confidence. each small achievement give you more confidence to tackle bigger dreams. Be Persistent.. Keep going until…

Change your Energy & Environment

Start to turn your energy around to a positive resonance and surround yourself with positive like minded people. Get out of your house and your comfort zone and find people who are going where you want to be. Reprogramme yourself. ‘Fake it til you make it” or acting ‘as if’ you are enthusiastic, energised and motivated each day will soon trick your brain into actually being & feeling this way. When you are surrounded by happy motivated people you can not help but feel the same way. And curiously they will be drawn to your positive and motivated energy, giving you perpetual support and encouragement.

Plan for and enjoy a holistic Life

Remember although we are primarily addressing business success from failure, leading a life balanced with good health, a loving family environment, caring and supportive friends, charity, achievement and wealth is a successful life indeed.

Successful Investing in Self and Wealth.

Making Healthy Food Choices in Your Busy Life!

As you know – I have been on a health kick…so today I’ve got some tips for making healthy food chioces to help you on your road to a better life!

You’ll be pleased to discover that a hectic life doesn’t mean that every meal has to be fast food on the run! Sometimes it’s difficult to make healthy changes, but with a little planning and know-how, it can be done.

You already know how important it is to make healthy food choices for you and your family. But how can you fit the best choices into your busy life?

Here are some strategies to help you and your family make healthy choices:

1. Make dinner time a social experience.

Dinner should be about enjoying your company and taking pleasure in the foods you’re eating.

Dinner becomes a great experience when you’re able to enjoy healthy foods together. Take time to eat as a family and enjoy a real conversation with each other. Talking will naturally slow down your eating pace, while also reconnecting you with your family members.

When you begin to look at mealtime as a social experience, it becomes easier to make the right choices about healthy foods. Suddenly you aren’t so worried about rushing through and making it quick.

2. Avoid temptation.

It’s so easy to walk into the store with good intent, but walk out with bags full of unhealthy foods. Unfortunately, our wills are weak, especially if we’ve trained ourselves over the years to buy junk foods.

* Think of healthier alternatives to your family’s favorite unhealthy foods. Rather than high calorie chips, try trail mixes or rice cakes. Low calorie puddings or frozen yogurts are better alternatives to higher fat ice creams.

* Never shop when you’re hungry. This way you won’t pick out unhealthy choices because they look good at the moment.

* Get rid of the unhealthy foods in your home. If they aren’t around, you won’t be tempted to eat them.

3. Eat fast and healthy meals at home.

When you’re tired at the end of the day and you realize you still have to feed the family, it’s easy to go to a fast food chain and throw fast food on the table. It may save some time, but it won’t save your health – or your pocket book!

* Look online for quick and easy recipes made with all natural ingredients. Many recipes can be made in 30 minutes or less and only have 5 ingredients. Taking the time to do some recipe research will save your sanity in the long run. Then once you find a “hit” with the family, store the recipe in a book or on your computer.

* The great thing is that there are many easy, fast, and healthy foods you can make at home. This takes some planning, but you’ll be more satisfied, save money, and be healthier as well.

* When you cook, make large batches and freeze the leftovers. This way, you’ll already have meals in the freezer that you can just thaw, heat, and serve. No mess, no fuss! This is the opportune way to enjoy “fast” food at home.

4. Eat Slower.

Since the brain takes about 20 minutes to get the signal that the stomach is full, if you eat too fast you’ll pack in a lot more food than you need. When you’re still thinking you’re hungry, it’s easy to make the wrong choices about food. If you slow down while you’re eating, you’ll eat less and you’ll still feel full.

* Set a calming mood before sitting down for a meal. Avoid having the television on or eating as you’re rushing the kids out the door to another activity. Sitting calmly at the table will allow everyone to relax and enjoy their meal.

Using these techniques will bring all kinds of healthy benefits to your family and teach your children a healthy lifestyle. Healthy food choices are a possibility in your busy life if you take the time to plan ahead and make dinner time a priority in your home.

How To Combat Negative Feelings In Your Business Life

Do you struggle with negative feelings? Honestly, who does not? These critical times are marked by economic uncertainty and hardship, volatile violence and careless injustice. It is hardly surprising that countless people today are troubled by overwhelming sadness, excessive guilt and a sense of personal worthlessness.

These negative feelings can be toxic. They may undermine our confidence, paralyse our reasoning ability and steal our joy. When we feel discouraged, we are weakened. We need our energy and power in order to keep on going in this burdened world. It is vital to keep negative feelings under control. (Note however, those who suffer with long-term or chronic depression may need to consult a qualified doctor).

There are three ways that may help you combat negative feelings.

  1. You need to be aware of those who are genuinely interested in you. The people who care for you, love you and value you highly. These are the people in your life who honestly have your best interests at heart and are understanding to your feelings. It is a comfort knowing that these are individuals who have come to know and respect you, and despite your flaws and mistakes, they are still sincerely concerned about your welfare.
  2. You need to surround yourself with a healthy, positive support group. Negative feelings cannot be dispelled if you surround yourself with depressive or cynical people. People who haven’t set clear goals and take action to achieve them, often have too much idle time which gives rise to negative thinking and inaction. These individuals won’t build you up, they will tear you down. Who you choose to be friends with will have a positive or a negative impact on your life both at home and in your business.
  3. You need hope or something to look forward to. What is your focus? Perhaps you are in a situation or environment that is conducive to encouraging negative feelings. You may be stuck in a job you don’t like with an unappreciative boss you have to answer to. You may be in a highly demanding corporate job, which robs your quality time from you and your loved ones. You may be overwhelmed by debt, concerned about your financial affairs and the security of your family. You may have been laid off your job or forced to take early retirement. Alternatively you may be forced to work longer before retiring and you are tired and seeking something that will give you better satisfaction. You may be a mother experiencing guilt at having to return to work after maternity leave. Perhaps you are anxious at the thought of leaving your children in a stranger’s care or the rising costs of childcare. Let’s face it…there are numerous factors in life, both personally and in business that can cause negative feelings. Do not panic. There are solutions. There are always choices even if they don’t seem abundantly clear at first. Education is important if you are going to stay ahead of the curve and create a secure nest egg for you and your family. Times are changing and only the well-informed individuals will be protected from the negative influences that abound today.

Don’t be a victim. Take action in combatting negative feelings and securing your future both in your personal and business life. What is your outlook? Don’t focus on what has gone wrong. Focus on what to do next. Spend your energy on moving forward and finding the solution. Securing your financial future in today’s uncertain economy is just one of the many steps you can take in ensuring a better life for you and your loved ones now and in the future. Act without delay. Secure Retirement Funds.