Separating Your Personal Life From Business Life

This post is intended for people that are self-employed. Most of us would like to be self-employed because we don’t want to put up with the tiresome and tedious conditions of a real job. But being self-employed, being an entrepreneur, and having your own small business isn’t just a walk in the park. In this type of work, it can take more self-discipline than a real job since there is no one over your shoulders telling you what to do.

Another factor is that many beginners think that self-employment is a dream job so they can just slack off during their business hours, and that’s where they get the wrong picture when the results they want don’t start showing up. One of the worst things a self-employed person can do is not knowing the difference between a personal life and a business life. If you cannot separate though two, you’ll in for a very unproductive ride.

The reason for this is if you don’t, you’ll be wasting time doing other tasks that unimportant to what really matters and that’s your business. Here are some random things that I think normal people would do that if done in business mode, can suck out precious minutes of productively.

-Watching TV
-Going on forums
-Checking e-mail
-Going on Facebook
-Looking at the latest news
-Turning Skype on while you’re working
-Playing with Kids
-Chatting with a friend
-Going out with friends
-Going out with girlfriend or boyfriend
-Doing the laundry
-Going out to get food

When you work, whether it is for 10 hours or 4 hours, those hours are for your business. It’s important that you focus on your work and nothing else. It may be tempting to hang out with family or friends. It may also be hard to turn them down. But that is what will define how much you value your business ethics, even if they can’t take the job seriously. You’re the only one that matters when it comes to take your taking your job seriously.

You may probably hear people who do make money on autopilot, but don’t be too easily fooled by their words. They just want to tell you that because that want to make work “sound easy” when in fact, to get to that point, they have worked really hard, probably a lot harder than most people expect. You can surprise yourself as well as surprise others to how hard you work as well.

Some things that might help separate a business life and a personal life is work on schedule every single day. Even if you’re self-employed, does your business work around your personal life? Or does your personal life work around your business? If you’re serious about getting stuff down, it should be the latter. Some people work the best a couple hours in the morning, some people work the best late into the night.

For example, I find the best hours for me to sit in front of the computer and write is from the hours between 10PM and 2AM. I can get most done during these times because distractions are at its minimal. Somehow I don’t work well when I know there is sunlight outside. Call me a vampire if you must. Again, even if it’s just a couple of times, you’ll need to find your business hours as sacred hours.

Second, you must trying wearing business attire. I know this sounds silly, but the mind is crazy and will accept thoughts and feelings towards things that you think are real. If you pretend that you are actually working in an office and actually wearing business attire, you may become more serious in your work like a professional would at work. A person who dresses sloppy might make their work sloppy, while again, a person who dresses professionally might take their work more professionally. And it’s the smallest things that make the biggest differences. However, it’s just an idea and may not work for everybody.

When you are done, you can reward yourself by doing the things you had in mind. Making a small business doesn’t have to be hard. It is simple if you can manage your time right. The main purpose of being self-employed is to have more free time to do things, unlike regular job hours. But that does mean that you’ll have to make the most out of the time that you do work, and that starts with separating your personal life from business life.

Strategies For Success After Failure in Business & Life

As part of my life journey I have faced many ups and downs in our business life, I’ve experienced the giddy heights of quick and meteoric success in business. Building up a company worth many millions of dollars and then an equally disastrous loss of fortune due the Asian Financial crisis of the late 90’s. This saw us losing large sums of money, in fact all of it bar a few dollars, many properties and most devastatingly, our family home. It truly was the most challenging time our family had ever faced.

The greatest toll it took on me was emotionally. It was extremely difficult for me to see this ‘failure’ for what it was; a set of external circumstances beyond our control. For me I felt like a personal failure, it was my fault and I let this keep me down for many years. I buried my natural creative, entrepreneurial nature and got busy focusing on our 3 very young children. I allowed my feelings of shame and humiliation to rob me of many years and almost every shred of confidence I had.

Today I was privileged to attend an event in Wellington called “Women and Wealth” where the keynote speaker was Suzanne Paul, a public figure in New Zealand, founder and inventor of the ‘Natural Glow’ cosmetic empire. Due to a new business venture failing, Suzanne has also experienced a very public loss of everything, including her self esteem and confidence. I have always admired her courage in sharing her story in her book and via interviews and speaking engagements. Like a lot of women, I have followed her story, been inspired by her sheer guts and determination to pick herself up, dust herself off and start over. Having slowly done the same myself firmly believing the mantra… “But wait, there’s more”

“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure”. – Napoleon Hill

This quote from Napoleon Hill has given me strength and encouragement each day since I found it. If I’m experiencing any defeats in my day, I will open my iPhone and flick up this quote to inspire and motivate me to just keep going, put one foot in front of the other and move towards my goals.

If you find yourself in the same position, are 4 essential strategies to help you find your confidence again, you may be looking for whiz bang hard edge business strategies but I can assure you that healing your relationship with yourself first will guarantee you success in all areas of life and have you moving forward…

Forgive Yourself

Find a way to make peace with your past defeats, analyse ‘why’ this happened, find out all the outside influences that lead to the circumstances of your failure, examine your own decisions, identify what you could have done differently, learn from this lesson. By truly understanding what happened analytically, you can be confident of not making the same decisions again that lead you there. Now move on… and realign your focus and start on your new future.

Make a Plan for your New Future

Write your goals, dreams and aspirations out in a notebook, prioritise them and make an action plan of small steps you can take each day to reach these goals. If this is a new experience for you, start with small easily achievable goals. The fact that you are working towards them and achieving gives you confidence. each small achievement give you more confidence to tackle bigger dreams. Be Persistent.. Keep going until…

Change your Energy & Environment

Start to turn your energy around to a positive resonance and surround yourself with positive like minded people. Get out of your house and your comfort zone and find people who are going where you want to be. Reprogramme yourself. ‘Fake it til you make it” or acting ‘as if’ you are enthusiastic, energised and motivated each day will soon trick your brain into actually being & feeling this way. When you are surrounded by happy motivated people you can not help but feel the same way. And curiously they will be drawn to your positive and motivated energy, giving you perpetual support and encouragement.

Plan for and enjoy a holistic Life

Remember although we are primarily addressing business success from failure, leading a life balanced with good health, a loving family environment, caring and supportive friends, charity, achievement and wealth is a successful life indeed.

Successful Investing in Self and Wealth.

3 Easy Steps to Fit Meditation Practice Into A Busy Life

Has meditation practice been shown to improve human health?

Studies are beginning to emerge which are documenting the wide ranging benefits of regular meditation practice. For example, one study concluded that practices like Zen meditation could help treat attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (known as ADHD) and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Meditation also was found effective in treating some forms of anxiety and depression..

The results of studies like the one listed above are extremely encouraging, especially now when health costs are skyrocketing. Meditation may offer people a cost effective method for dealing with many health issues. However, while many people are intrigued by these and other scientific accounts of the benefits of meditation, many feel that they do not have the time to practice meditation, or learn enough about it to really enjoy its benefits. However, meditation practice can be integrated into a busy lifestyle quite easily.

Would you like to enjoy the health benefits of meditation but feel that you cannot find the time to work it into your busy life? Follow these 3 easy steps and you will find it very easy to practice meditation on a daily basis, and enjoy its positive effects, even if you think you are too busy.

1. Decide how much time you have to meditate each day.

If its 10 minutes, then so be it. However, you may actually find that once you start practicing, more time will become available. And when you actually start experiencing the benefits meditation can bring, you will want to dedicate more time to your practice.

2. Divide whatever time you have decided you can dedicate to meditation in half, and practice half in the morning, and the other half in the evening right before going to bed.

If you decide you have 20 minutes each day to devote to meditation, use 10 of those minutes in the morning, and the other 10 minutes in the evening. The benefits of this are two fold. First, you begin and end each day by calming your mind and body, which will help you be more productive during the day, and sleep better at night. The second benefit is you will begin to impress upon your subconscious mind the importance of practicing meditation, which will make it easier for you to continue the practice long term.

3. Research and find a good beginners guide to meditation which is geared towards helping you focus your mind.

When you begin meditating, you will find your mind is very easily distracted. Therefore, I recommend not beginning your meditation journey with Zen like practices of emptying the mind, because those are advanced practices, and as a beginner you may find them challenging. Instead, try focusing your mind on something specific while meditating. For example, if you wish to meditate in the Christian tradition, you can use scripture, especially the Psalms, to calm the mind and focus it. If you are interested in eastern styles of meditation, find recordings of sacred sounds, or mantras like AUM, which are very effective for calming and focusing the mind. And non-religious practices can utilize recordings of the sounds of nature, accompanied by soothing music. Whatever you decide to use, make sure it is something that will help you calm your mind down so that your meditation practice is effective, and that you continue practicing with this method consistently.

The best part about step three is most of what you need can be acquired easily and at a very low cost. I hope you find these three steps helpful in beginning your meditation practice.